Tita Pinky, an elderly lady in our organization, asked if we could bring her to the hospital. Her husband just had a quadruple bypass. I thought it was a bit of a hassle. My sister volunteered me without my having much of a say in it. Grudgingly, I told my sister I'd go back and pick the elderly lady back at our house. When she came aboard, she was very grateful. She said she had come to our house that day hoping to find my mom and help her out with things to try to get her mind off of her husband. She was worried about him. But she really wanted to go to the hospital to check up on him. It's just that none of her children were available that day. She was telling me how miserable she felt, and how she was trying to fight it. I felt bad about being impatient with the elderly lady. What's a ride to the hospital? My people were very capable. They can survive a morning without me. So I told her I'd stay with her until we got to the hospital. I felt bad because I also realized how impatient I was with my own mother, and she didn't deserve this from her children. She deserved honor. And I don't want her to feel miserable and alone.
We got to the hospital after more than an hour. Traffic was bad and we got lost. So, I take her up to her husband's room. And when we entered, he wasn't happy to see her. Tita Pinky told me, "Oh, he's angry." I asked if she was going to be okay and if she had a way to get home. She said she would be fine. So off I went, but I felt even worse than that morning. I felt so sad for this elderly woman, who wanted so much to see her husband because she was worried about him. And him glaring at her for coming. He's not the only husband I've seen who has that cruel streak towards their wives. Most husbands that I meet are not violent or anything. But there still is that cruelty, in the way they unappreciate, put down, refuse to give attention, or criticize their wives.
If I get married, will my husband be cruel to me, too? Are all husbands like that?
